Situation 4. You need to stop the tantrum of the child.
Psychologists offer this method: tell the child: “I do not understand what you want to say when you cry. Take a deep breath and tell. ”
The second way: create an illusion in the child that he himself makes a decision, for example, he cannot decide whether to take a bath or not. Ask him if he can decide whether to take a bath with or without foam, or what toys to take with you. Then the question of taking a bath will be solved by itself.
If you need to leave with your child, and he is naughty, warn him in advance about the planned care. Children are poorly oriented in time, so it’s better not to say: “Stop the tantrum, we are leaving in five minutes.” More effective is the phrase: "We will leave when this song (or cartoon) ends."
It is impossible under any circumstances to succumb to hysteria. Resistance to hysterics will teach a child that in this way he will not achieve anything!
If there is a doll or other toy on hand, redirect the child’s attention to it. Talk to the baby in her voice. Sometimes a conversation with an “equal” is much clearer to a child than a conversation with a parent.
If the child has made a tantrum in a public place, take him outside, or to the toilet, to the car (the main thing is to change the situation), usually when the situation changes, the children calm down.
If he really lost control, ask him to take a few deep breaths.
According to psychologists, for hysteria should not be punished, it is better to develop the child from time to time so that he learns to express his desires with the help of words.
Situation 5. You want to involve the child in housework.
The tale of Cinderella discredits the work of the house, because it "makes" to perform as a "heavy" wicked stepmother "in punishment and humiliation."
However, doing housework in real life is a vital necessity. If a child helps parents around the house, he can be proud of himself, because he does things that are good for the family.
The most difficult thing is to explain to a child that you give him a chance to feel like a family member, trusting him to perform various duties at home. This is not an act of “torture” on your part, but a fact of trust in it.
Even a small child can help you.
According to studies, your 2–3 year old kid can do the following types of homework:
- to collect toys and put them in places;
- sweep the floor;
- put on the table napkins, plates and cutlery;
- to wipe the face after eating;
- Remove the dishes from the dishwasher (except for things like sharp knives).
4 years old:
- regularly feed pets;
- help in the garden (if any);
- wipe dust from furniture;
- get mail;
- help to wash the dishes or load it in the dishwasher.
5 year olds:
- to make the bed;
- clean your room;
- wash the sink;
- put clean things and put them in place;
- help to wash the car;
- take out trash.
How to involve a child in housework?
1. Allocate time for joint cleaning.
2. Let the child make a list of household chores. Tell him if he misses something: “How does your dirty clothes return to the closet already clean?” Or: “How do your toys go back to the box?” - “With the help of Fairy of Order and Cleanliness!” Let the child temporarily will be this fairy.
3. Let the child help you with the help of children's tools (a small broom, dustpan or rake will add to his mood for cleaning).
4. Call the child your favorite assistant, you can make him a badge or pick up a special cap for work - they will create an additional incentive.
5. Cleaning will be more fun if you turn on the music.
6. Praise and thank the child for help.
7. Use phrases like: “As soon as you put your toys in the box, you can go play outside.”
8. Psychologists propose to stimulate the child’s help with various “prizes” (for example, fashionable stickers now). If a child collects 10 stickers (or 15, at your discretion), then something “special” awaits him: for example, a trip out of town with his family or another desired prize.
9. Never redo the work of a child with him (if he completed the task is not perfect). Do it later or turn on a sense of humor: for example, if he forgot to put the plates on the table, pretend that you want to put food right on the table. Do not be annoyed, better laugh with your child over the ridiculous situation. He himself will understand and correct the mistake.
1. Choice (from 3 to 4 years): this game will allow you to fairly distribute household work among family members (if there are several children, then among children).
Make a wheel out of cardboard, stick pictures with the image of the types of work on the edges of the wheel. Make a cardboard arrow and insert a nail into the center. Have the children spin the wheel to find out what chores they need to do today.
2. Lottery (from 4 to 6 years):
Write the types of household chores on paper and put them in a box with a lid. Once a week, the child chooses one or two cards from the box; he will do this work during the week. If there are several children, let everyone have such a "magic" box.
Be sure to sum up at the end of the week, count points. You can arrange a competition between children. The winner will get some prize (ask the children what they would like to “earn”).
To be continued…